Pregnancy can be an unintentional surprise bringing mixed feelings such as elation and deep concern. Some people in retrospect say it was the best thing that happened to them. For some people feelings of shock and denial can be their initial response. Space and time to think things through are particularly valuable for a woman at this time.
Some of the support available includes:
- Baby Equipment: contact Choices for more information and help.
- Benefits are available; for more information visit GOV.UK. You can get advice from your local citizens advice bureau.
- If you have no GP you can easily register with a local GP to receive antenatal care.
- If you have housing problems you can find help at the local housing office.
Abortion (termination of pregnancy)
Choosing abortion is a difficult choice but having space and time to think through the options before going ahead can help. Abortions are carried out free under the NHS.
Types of abortion
Up to 12 weeks of a pregnancy, 2 doses of tablets are given. If the pregnancy is between 9-24 weeks, more of the same drugs may be administered. Bleeding will occur and the pregnancy will be lost.
Some women prefer, or may require a surgical termination in early pregnancy and a general anaesthetic will be required for this.
Possible risks include bleeding, infection and damage to the cervix (neck of the uterus).
Some women may initially experience a sense of relief. Others may feel a mixture of feelings such as sadness, anger, emptiness and loss which can often recur many years later.
These problems are more likely to occur if:
- You felt you had little choice in your decision to terminate
- You have suffered from depression
- You are not comfortable with the idea of abortion.
Adoption is not an easy option but one where you are choosing to release a child to those who would like to adopt, and can generate a variety of mixed emotions.
The adoption agency provides all the information about the implications and legal procedures of adoption as well as counselling.
Many women can feel a range of different emotions during the adoption process. This is understandable, and therapeutic listening can help women through this difficult time.
A booklet by BAAF (British Association for Adoption and Fostering) Scotland, is helpful as it answers many of the questions and concerns a woman may have.